It’s not fear of failure that stops you
What really makes it impossible for your nervous system to handle mistakes.
One idea to contemplate
It’s not fear of failure that stops you. It’s the very painful limiting belief that your mind interprets failure as a proof of. That belief is often in the realm of fundamental lack and flaw: I’m not good enough, I’m bad, I mess things up, I cause damage. It’s not mistakes that your nervous system finds it impossible to be with, it’s the imagined consequences of that very painful limiting belief.
Three questions for you
What’s your definition of failure? What’s your definition of success? How can you redefine both so that your concepts of failure and success support you rather than prevent you in taking action towards your goals?
An experiment to try
How does the thought “I’m not allowed to make a mistake” feel in your body? How does “I’m allowed to make mistakes. And I’m allowed to not feel ashamed of my mistakes.” feel?
Quote to ponder
“And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time.”
- T. S. Eliot
What’s on my mind
I’m exploring the wisdom in my anger and ways to express it, without directing it at people. When we suppress our anger, we suppress our life force. I can see a direct correlation in my life between a time when I began repressing my anger and the onset of disempowerment and depression.
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