Problems recur for two main reasons: either because we’ve been ignoring them, or because the solutions were not effective. In either case it’s our inability to be with the friction that problems create that causes recurring problems.
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Failing doesn’t mean you’re a failure.
We are often slow to rebound from failure because we spend hours, days, weeks judging ourselves for our mistakes. We get stuck in downwards spiral of self-blame, and the pothole becomes an abyss.
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Goals are a means to becoming a different person. And changing who we are is a means to altering our present-moment experience of life.
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My biggest learning of 2024, the most challenging and painful year of my life, is that the more I widened my capacity to actually experience what I was experiencing, the more my baseline of joy and happiness increased. Whenever I felt fear, hurt, anxiety, any unwelcome emotion, instead of distracting myself from it, I went
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Our ability to hold ambivalence is one of the key characteristics of emotional intelligence. Our sentiments are rarely 100% one way or the other. An experience can evoke both joy and sadness within us. An upcoming change could be both exciting and frightening. We can feel simultaneously compelled and repelled by someone or something.
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Emotions are like little children. Spontaneous, frivolous, disarming. And just like children, they sometimes want to put on a costume, whether eccentric, flamboyant or mismatching, bring on a performance, and have our full attention. Instinctively, we draw back and try to suppress feeling into unpleasant emotions and states—pain, boredom, loneliness, shame, guilt, fear, anxiety, hopelessness.
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A lot of the marketing advice for entrepreneurs, creatives and businesses is to niche down and create a very clearly defined and narrow offering, for a very clearly defined and narrow audience. This makes sense in many ways. Consistency builds results. Having a distinguishable definition, as an entrepreneur or business, helps people know who you
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There’s a Good Wolf and a Bad Wolf. A Mr Hyde and a Dr Jekyll. A higher self and a lesser self. Two polarities, in each of us.
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We don’t just create ourselves, we create other people. The way we view them and treat them stimulate and surface aspects of who they are. We can see and react to either their gifts or their so-called inadequacies, to what they give or what they lack, who they are or who they’re not. And
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The cyclical nature of nature and of the measures of time we’ve designed around it offer us constant opportunities for renewal. New beginnings and change are available to us not just around the holidays, in the turn of the years, or during the big milestones, but all the time. All the time. There’s newness, possibility
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