Confidence is the integration of self-doubt
Confidence is the integration of self-doubt. Making space for the part of us that’s fearful, insecure and hesitant — rather than banishing it.
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Does mood follow action?
Do we think or do our way into changing? We have plenty of evidence that when our thinking about something changes, our actions change and so do our results. In other words, we need to be before we do.
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The more on you are, the more you can benefit from some off-time
I find that the more our modus operandi pushes us into one extreme, the more transformative it is to create pockets of time for stepping into the opposite extreme. The way I’ve been exploring this recently is by making time for standing still.
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Confidence is owning imperfection, i.e. our humanity
Confidence is owning yourself fully. It doesn’t result from being perfect, but from being comfortable with the so-called imperfections.
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Being powerful isn’t in doing, it’s in undoing
Power isn’t something you find, it’s something you already have. It’s your inherent nature. If you’re experiencing powerlessness, the key to overcoming this is not by becoming more powerful, but by removing what prevents you from feeling powerful.
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The three voices
Whether we feel grounded or overwhelmed by an event is not due to the event but due to our thoughts about it. We experience the energy of our thinking. More precisely, it’s our choice which of our thoughts to believe in and act upon that creates our feelings and behaviour.
Projections
How other people act toward you is not a measure of your value. It’s a measure of their emotional intelligence.
Difficult questions and radical honesty
Asking ourselves difficult questions is difficult. If we think the answers may hurt us, make us feel vulnerable, or critical of ourselves, we tend to self-protect by pulling away from inquiry. We don’t want to find out that yes, it was our fault that the project failed; yes, we didn’t say the right thing; yes, we embarrassed ourselves.
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Don’t buy into the inner critic
That nasty little voice that tells you that you can’t. That doubts you and criticises you. That tells you you’re not good enough. And how dare you believe in yourself. That nags you and puts you down.
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Outhacked
The “hack” there is no hack. The “hack” is there’s a hack fallacy. A perpetual pressure to be more, do more, never miss out on anything, never experience a dull moment. The “hack” is realising we’ve been hacked into rat-racing a hack fallacy.