We are often so focused on getting approval and acceptance from other people that we abandon our own needs and our authentic expression in order to belong. We hide parts of ourselves that we believe are unlikable, we modify our opinions, censor our expression.
It’s our own shadow we are most frightened of Read More »
When we think about what we want to achieve, the fundamental question we’re trying to answer is “what would I love to get?”.
Goal-setting reimagined: what would I love to give? Read More »
Sharing our life with others is perhaps one of the most beautiful and touching aspects of the human experience. Celebrating with someone when things go well. Talking over our hurt when they don’t.
You’re not just one thing. Not only a professional, or only a partner, or only a parent. Not only someone who works, or someone who runs, or someone who paints in their free time.
You zag when others zig Read More »
Confidence is being able to be with insecurity. Confidence doesn’t mean being perfect, it means being okay with imperfection.
Confidence: being comfortable with the uncomfortable Read More »
Byron Katie has a saying that I love : “Reality is always kinder than the stories we tell about it.” Never is this truer than when it comes to our own critical thoughts about ourselves.
The inner critic is wrong Read More »
Leaders and organisations need more “no people” not more “yes people”.
Growth results from challenging Read More »
One of the things most damaging to confidence is breaking our commitment. Whether we’ve given our word to others or ourselves, we are out of integrity when we go back on it, and we know that we are. We know that we’ve just lied to ourselves, and it doesn’t feel good. Not upholding our commitments impacts our confidence negatively often in ways we don’t fully appreciate.
The power of keeping your word Read More »
One of the “lessons” so many of us learn as children is that we are not safe. My own formative introduction to that was through being locked out one evening. I’d been to visit the neighbours and I got home a few minutes later than I was supposed to.
We can’t find safety in the domain that’s not creating its lack Read More »
So often when we navigate periods of deep change, grief or loss, we are so focused on getting to the other side that we forget the aspect of ourselves that’s grieving. The fear and pain that are an intrinsic part of transitions are so uncomfortable to be with
Making space for what is Read More »