Role models
Who are the people you look up to? What qualities do they embody? Are there ways in which you can benefit from aligning your life more closely with these qualities? What would that give you?
What if you did the opposite?
The more you function from one end of an extreme, the more impactful spending time in the other extreme would be. If you’re always busy, take some time for introspection. If you’re always surrounded by people, do something alone. If you never exercise, do some push-ups or a short walk around the block. Do it
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Confidence is the integration of self-doubt
Confidence is the integration of self-doubt. Making space for the part of us that’s fearful, insecure and hesitant — rather than banishing it.
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Does mood follow action?
Do we think or do our way into changing? We have plenty of evidence that when our thinking about something changes, our actions change and so do our results. In other words, we need to be before we do.
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Confidence is owning imperfection, i.e. our humanity
Confidence is owning yourself fully. It doesn’t result from being perfect, but from being comfortable with the so-called imperfections.
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The three voices
Whether we feel grounded or overwhelmed by an event is not due to the event but due to our thoughts about it. We experience the energy of our thinking. More precisely, it’s our choice which of our thoughts to believe in and act upon that creates our feelings and behaviour.
Difficult questions and radical honesty
Asking ourselves difficult questions is difficult. If we think the answers may hurt us, make us feel vulnerable, or critical of ourselves, we tend to self-protect by pulling away from inquiry. We don’t want to find out that yes, it was our fault that the project failed; yes, we didn’t say the right thing; yes, we embarrassed ourselves.
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Don’t buy into the inner critic
That nasty little voice that tells you that you can’t. That doubts you and criticises you. That tells you you’re not good enough. And how dare you believe in yourself. That nags you and puts you down.
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Questions for setting better priorities
Goals are a means to becoming a different person. And changing who we are is a means to altering our present-moment experience of life.
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Biggest lesson of 2024
My biggest learning of 2024, the most challenging and painful year of my life, is that the more I widened my capacity to actually experience what I was experiencing, the more my baseline of joy and happiness increased. Whenever I felt fear, hurt, anxiety, any unwelcome emotion, instead of distracting myself from it, I went
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