Whenever something triggers us, it’s because at the deeper level it is making us feel unsafe. On the surface, there are many reasons why circumstances, words, actions cause upset in us. They may evoke sadness, fear, anger, surprise, disgust, or a combination of them. But when we look into our emotional reaction, examine it and […]
A conflict triggered me very deeply recently, evoking strong feelings of fear, fragmentation, abandonment and loss. In the immediate aftermath of it, I was very vulnerable, raw, alone and exposed.
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I grew up, not allowing myself to be vulnerable because I believed that my worth was contingent on me being powerful, strong dependable. On the one hand, I didn’t want to show to people who were hurting me how they impacted me, so I suppressed my emotions. And on the other hand, I thought that
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Traditionally, we think of life, achievement, motion in terms of linear progression. Growth which involves moving from A to B takes time. Building muscle, training for a marathon, losing weight require progressive overload over a period of time.
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What we judge in others is often what we sense and reject in ourselves. The traits and behaviours we criticise, actively or passively, in friends, partners, co-workers, society at large are usually characteristics we see in ourselves and are uncomfortable with.
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There are two types of worth: relative and absolute. Relative worth is the conventional worth that we associate with achievement, success, appreciation, status. Its perceived value increases when certain criteria are fulfilled and it decreases if we fail, struggle or stagnate.
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When life is challenging and hurtful, we tend to attribute this to our falling short in some capacity. Maybe our business isn’t growing at the rate we want it to grow, or people are not treating us with the respect we deserve, or we’re not losing the weight we want to lose, we all often find ourselves being not as happy, vital and free as we know we can be.
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One of my main observations from being an entrepreneur for ten years is that the closer your product or service is aligned with who you are, who you really are, the higher your chance of success. I think there are two reasons for this: a) when what we do isn’t just what we do, but
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I was often sad and unhappy as a child and adolescent. I didn’t feel loved and valued by my parents. I was criticised, heavily and regularly, for innocuous things.
Honouring our feelings Read More »
When we doubt our worth, we normally look for ways to increase it. Whether it’s getting the best education, earning more money, upscaling our social status, or dating a more attractive partner, we create worth in order to feel worthy.
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