Seen, heard, held
When we are not seen, heard, and held as children, we learn to not see, hear and hold ourselves. We learn to ignore ourselves. We get the message that there’s something undeserving about us.
Within
The answers we look for are usually within us already. It’s the noise—both external and internal—that prevents us from receiving them. Busyness of mind and body, distractions, restlessness, incessant motion – our innate inability to stand still.
Worth is in being, not doing
Our worth is not in our actions, it’s in our being. And it’s not in us being a certain way—in a certain form, shape, sound, embodiment—but just in our very being itself.
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Avoiding the life we don’t want
Most of the time we’re trying to avoid the life we don’t want to live rather than create the life we don’t want to avoid. This, by default, puts us in a reactive mode. The choices we make are in response to what we don’t want.
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You’re not worried what other people think of you
When we’re worried about what other people think of us, what we’re really worried about is the fact that we think there’s something worrisome about us. It is not other people’s opinion that we’re concerned about, but our own concern that there’s something concerning about us.
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The absence of the idea of you
The access to who we really are is on the other side of our limited idea of ourselves. The stories and narratives we have about ourselves are invariably based in limitation. They are coping mechanisms we, or more precisely the ego-based part of us, adopted when we were children in response to the events of our life.
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We attract what we judge
ways we aren’t fully conscious of, we attract in life the tailor-made circumstances for our evolution. We attract what we judge until we no longer judge what we attract. We attract what we resist, until we no longer resist what we attract.
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The confidence of asking for what you need
There is a lot of stigma around asking for what we need. You may think that if you deserved it, you wouldn’t have to ask for it. You may believe that you’re being entitled, arrogant, or too demanding. You may tell yourself that whatever the situation you’re not satisfied with is, it could have been worse.
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Symptoms and root causes
We often mistake symptoms for root causes. The self-judgement is the symptom. The subconscious narrative that creates it is the root cause.
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Asking for help is powerful
We often have hard time asking for help. It may feel embarrassing or as an admission of weakness. Perhaps we think we’re intruding or we that not coping on our own is a sign of weakness.
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