There are endless reasons why we get upset with other people. The argument you had with your partner. The rude remark your neighbour made. The disrespectful attitude of the customer representative.
You’re never upset with other people Read More »
Most of us feel the need to connect with others deeply and be seen and appreciated for who we are. You reach out to friends, you attend social events, you talk and share.
The real reason you’re not seen and appreciated Read More »
Whether we’re clear on them or not, we all have values. They shape how we think and feel about the events of our lives, how we make decisions, what we prioritise, what we ignore.
Clarify your values Read More »
What you do, of course, matters and it matters greatly. But why you do it and how you do it matter more. The why defines the how which defines the what.
Why you hit glass ceilings and how to break through Read More »
Confidence comes from saying you’ll do something and doing it. From knowing what’s important to you, committing to it and honouring your commitment. When you honour your commitments, you honour yourself. And honouring yourself builds self-respect and confidence.
Confidence follows action Read More »
The intention to find, the obstacle to finding. Searching puts us in motion, but knowing is available when we’re motionless. We know when we find the courage to be with the questions without the comfort of answers, to be in the not-knowing without the security of knowing. We know when we allow ourselves to not know.
The search is the obstacle to discovery Read More »
The most powerful expression of you emerges in the absence of your idea of you—in the non-judgemental loving acceptance of who you are, just as you are. This is difficult to attain for most of us. We resist who we are in many different ways, both conscious and subconscious.
Your uniqueness is your superpower Read More »
We are not our thoughts, nor the thinker of thoughts. Not our experiences, nor the one that’s creating the experiences.
Consciousness vs. contents of consciousness Read More »
Pain makes us keep ourselves at distance from ourselves, which only feeds it.
Living on the outside Read More »
We look for safety in two ways—intellectually and in the material world. Intellectually, we aim to minimise the uncertainty in our life, to build security, to feel confident and competent, to plan the future, to strategise about our options, find answers to the questions that intrigue and bother us, minimise emotional and psychological frictions.
There are two types of safety and only one is real Read More »