One of the “lessons” so many of us learn as children is that we are not safe. My own formative introduction to that was through being locked out one evening. I’d been to visit the neighbours and I got home a few minutes later than I was supposed to.
We can’t find safety in the domain that’s not creating its lack Read More »
So often when we navigate periods of deep change, grief or loss, we are so focused on getting to the other side that we forget the aspect of ourselves that’s grieving. The fear and pain that are an intrinsic part of transitions are so uncomfortable to be with
Making space for what is Read More »
Lack of safety puts us in fear. And when we are in fear, we enter survival mode. This often triggers a fight or flight response propelling us to run forward, fast, sometimes even manically, toward a safer, better future.
We can’t find what we don’t know we’re looking for. Read More »
It’s not our limits that scare us, but our limitlessness. Not our fears, but our fearlessness. Not our lack of power, but how powerful we truly are.
We learn when we unlearn Read More »
We often use a torchlight rather than a floodlight when we look within. We point the light only at the aspects of ourselves that we like and accept, leaving those we feel uneasy about in the darkness.
The torchlight of limited awareness Read More »
Model the values you want to bring to the world, and model them most when they’re missing—for this is when your conviction is most needed.
Model the world you want to live in Read More »
We are not our thoughts, nor the thinker of thoughts. Not our experiences, nor the one that’s creating the experiences.
Consciousness vs. contents of consciousness Read More »
Our worth is not in our actions, it’s in our being. And it’s not in us being a certain way—in a certain form, shape, sound, embodiment—but just in our very being itself.
Worth is in being, not doing Read More »
Making a mistake is normal, human and even desirable because we learn from the experience. Yet, we often feel uncomfortable or even embarrassed if we haven’t handled something as well as we could have.
Mistakes are not the problem Read More »
We normally seek change in response to resisting and rejecting an aspect of life—a circumstances, an event or a part of ourselves.