One of the biggest obstacles to change is the desire to be right.
We’re often very invested in our knowledge, understanding and views about the world, ourselves, others.
Change requires letting go of always knowing Read More »
Fear chooses being right over being free. It fights for what is known, even when what’s known is pain, limitation, or self-sabotage. Because fear isn’t just a feeling. It’s the voice of the Wounded Ego Self— The part of you wired to protect what’s familiar, not what’s true.
Fear fights to be right about itself Read More »
Acceptance is not about making something acceptable to accept. Acceptance is accepting what is, as it is, now. This takes great courage. Stepping out of self/life-censorship and resistance and allowing yourself and life, non-judgementally, requires a lot of vulnerability.
Fragility: allowing things to be, as they are Read More »
Toward the end of last summer, I took cold showers for a couple of weeks. One morning, in the midst of a shower, I thought—it’s not getting any easier. And then I remembered—it’s not about avoiding difficulties, it’s about being with them without letting them affect us.
It’s not about avoiding difficulties, it’s about being with them Read More »
Life has a flow of its own that we can’t force. In fact, the more we surrender to it, the faster we move. Some days are giant leaps, others feel like steps in the wrong direction, some like regressions, others yet progress at a snail’s pace. Show up, do your best, stay true to yourself,
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So often when we navigate periods of deep change, grief or loss, we are so focused on getting to the other side that we forget the aspect of ourselves that’s grieving. The fear and pain that are an intrinsic part of transitions are so uncomfortable to be with
Making space for what is Read More »
Lack of safety puts us in fear. And when we are in fear, we enter survival mode. This often triggers a fight or flight response propelling us to run forward, fast, sometimes even manically, toward a safer, better future.
We can’t find what we don’t know we’re looking for. Read More »
ways we aren’t fully conscious of, we attract in life the tailor-made circumstances for our evolution. We attract what we judge until we no longer judge what we attract. We attract what we resist, until we no longer resist what we attract.
We attract what we judge Read More »
I woke up feeling sad. My energy was low, melancholic, resigned. There was a heaviness to it, but also a comfort and familiarity. It was a Saturday, the sky was bright, and the day was ahead of me.
The beauty of allowing Read More »
Our normal approach to resolving our problems and concerns is to overcome them. But this often makes them persist.
What feelings call for Read More »